One of the most important things you can do in your life, is to take care of you. One thing I learnt last year is that you can’t keep running around for everyone without taking care of yourself. Especially if these people claim to do the same for you and you realise they’d put in the minimum to get the maximum out of you. With my breakdown last year, I learnt I have always done this . With that, I learnt the importance of self-care. Not just the importance of it, but what self-care means to me and what part of it is important for me to be healthy and able to live with my disorders.

I want to share with you what I did for self-care during and after my breakdown. I will also share what I do for self-care now that I am in recovery.


Self-care during and after breakdown (September 2017 – January 2018)

  • Seek professional help
  • Take medication to calm fear and anxiety
  • See doctor weekly until professional help start
  • Remove toxic people from my life
  • Spend time with friend I didn’t realise I had
  • Adjust volunteer work
  • Learn about low-carb from said friend
  • Join an outdoor exercise group, suggested by another loved one
  • Try to eat regularly
  • Start weekly trauma therapy sessions
  • Finally go to church every week
  • Try to get help at home
  • Back to the gym every week
  • Read online more about how to cope with disorders
  • Look for people online with same disorders
  • Finally get long term help and guidance at home
  • Start this blog
  • Connect with more people with same type of background
  • Discuss potential start date with nutritionist
  • Keep a food diary for nutritionist


Now that I read this list, I see I have done a lot to get out of the black hole I fell in! I was so determined to get the right help, I honestly fought for my life because I was afraid they for the 100th time wouldn’t see what was really wrong. Suicide seemed again as the only option left, it had been on my mind almost 24/7.  I hadn’t felt so desperate since I was a teenager and admitted to the psychiatric hospital.


In January I started to notice significant changes, my body started to relax, I felt less hypervigilant and I was able to calm my self down before escalating into a panic attack.


My self-care now consists of:

  • Weekly trauma therapy sessions
  • Weekly visits from “mentor”
  • Weekly outdoor exercise group
  • Weekly work out at the gym
  • Weekly church attendance
  • Create paintings with watercolours
  • Drawing
  • Writing
  • This blog and social media
  • Connect with new friends
  • Keep in touch with old friends
  • Try new things
  • Participate in activities
  • Rest when needed
  • Volunteer work
  • Take sleeping medication
  • Use grounding tools I learnt in therapy
  • Use small tasks board I set up with “mentor” (4 daily things to do to keep my house tidy)
  • Eat 6 times a day guided by nutritionist
  • Daily planking/push ups to gain more muscle weight (when not dissociated)
  • Read a book (at least 5 minutes on bad days)
  • Read the Bible (guided by an easy to follow Bible plan)
  • Drink less coffee and more water
  • Be out of the house every morning or afternoon
  • recognise toxic behaviour and not engage in it


I am doing so much better than I have even before my breakdown. Trauma therapy has been a blessing, be it extremely hard to relive traumas every week. I stopped being co-dependant, which is something I have been all my life. I have a long way to go and this week has been really hard. With my recent flashbacks, panic attacks and opening up about secret traumas, it is hard to do my self care. Taking it easy at home and by using grounding tools I am able to pull myself through. I can call my mentor if I need extra help this week.


What do you do for self care and to manage your mental health? Leave a comment below!








Love & Light, Sandra

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